Whew! I barely eked this post out in time- I’m not sure how I will come up with the last points for my final “Things To Do Before Having a Baby” post next week. If you have any ideas, don’t hesitate to email me or leave a comment. I would love to hear your opinions on any of the previous posts in this series or what you are glad/wished you accomplished before having your baby. Don’t be shy- tell me what you’re thinking…
To Do Before Baby:
81. Save money for a new wardrobe– Yes, you will need maternity clothes- you will be wearing them even after the baby is born. But, you will also need to replace many items once you get back into shape after having the baby. Your body will be different, and your shape will change. Clothes may be the same size on you but the cut may not ever fit the same way.
82. Get a child friendly pet– When I found out I was pregnant we knew we would have to find a new home for our terrier because she was horrible with children. It was sad, but no amount of discipline would keep her from picking on and nipping at little children. We have since then gotten a few fish and our baby loves them. She will stare, mesmerized at the fish tank and gets excited when it’s time to feed the fish.
83. Get a family vehicle– When I found out I was pregnant, my husband and I were already in the process of looking for a new vehicle. We quickly decided on a safe, reliable, and roomy family car which has been very good to us over the past year and a half that we’ve owned it.
84. Strengthen old friendships or say goodbye– They may die out once you enter the mommy phase of your life. No matter what you may believe before having a baby, it will be very difficult to keep up friendships with even the closest friends who do not have a family of their own. For that matter, it will be hard to keep any friendships going while you are running on little sleep, days and nights blending together, and time flies faster than you can catch it.
85. Love your family, especially their quirks– So you have that crazy Aunt who likes to give out absurd, unsolicited advice (no I’m not speaking of any family member of mine in particular), but that is part of what makes your family gatherings so unique and special. When everybody gets together, certain tensions may erupt into a fight- that’s just life and it keeps everything from becoming too dull. Embrace the individuality of every person in your family and raise your baby to love them all.
86. Get over any needle phobia– Sorry but you are definitely going to get stuck a lot during your pregnancy. I am fortunate to not have a fear of needles, which would be awkward for me since I worked in a hospital laboratory. There are many tests that need to be performed on pregnant women to ascertain the health of her and her baby- we will save that information for another post, though.
87. Forget the “life after baby” fairytale– I told myself when I was pregnant that I was not falling victim to this mentality, but apparently I did without knowing it. I was a little distraught after 3 months went by and I was still not having a carefree, happy-go-lucky time staying home with my baby. Life after baby is not all about pushing a stroller in the park with the sun shining and birds chirping. Sometimes it is stormy, your baby is screaming at you, and all you want to do is sleep.
88. Drive/Ride on a motorcycle– This one is more for my husband than me, although I am so glad to have had the experience before our baby came along. I never thought I would love riding on a motorcycle- it’s just not the kind of person I am- but I had so much fun hopping on the back of my husband’s bike and cruising around town. Our motorcycle became pretty much obsolete with a baby, though.
89. Establish religious convictions with your spouse– Although my husband and I agree on the same religion and basic principles of that religion, some of our other religious convictions do not quite mesh together. There are occasions when we get into arguments about raising our baby with certain religious principles being a foundation for our family. Know where each other stands and make those important decisions now.
90. Prepare to be disgusted and get messy– There is not much in this world that will disgust me (other than cruelty and violence) and what used to bother me no longer does so. Working in the medical laboratory profession has cured me of any queasy tendencies when it comes to poop, vomit, or sputum. When you have a baby, you will get pooped on, spit up all over, and pee everywhere. Just a warning so that now you know what to expect…